One thing all our clients have in common is that they hold on to things they do not use. Sometimes it’s multiple kitchen items (five sets of measuring cups, broken wooden spoons), sometimes it’s clothing. Maybe it’s children’s toys (and their kids are forty-something) or an armchair that’s uncomfortable.
Here’s common reasons I hear:
- It was expensive
- It’s valuable
- It was a gift
- I might need it someday
- my kids might want it
When I gently ask a few more questions, here’s the reality:
- It was expensive forty years ago when I was just starting my career, made barely any money and had to save up for it.
- It’s valuable because my mother/grandmother/aunt told me so or because someone fifty years ago commented that they saw something identical for sale in an antique store for hundreds of dollars
- It was a gift and therefore I cannot get rid of it even though I’ve never liked it/it was never my taste/I never used it.
- I might need it someday and therefore I’d rather hold onto this for decades than have to run to the hardware store and buy a new one.
- My kinds might want it, though they’ve already told me they don’t like it/have too much in their own homes/don’t have room for it.
The reality is that most possessions don’t have resale value. Tastes change.
I encourage clients to focus on the enjoyment they derived from the items. Sixty years of glancing at a bone china teapot with pleasure is worthwhile! That’s where the value is.
I get it. It’s hard to let go. However, donating and knowing your treasures will find new homes and will be loved by excited new owners is worth their weight in gold.
